In his TED Talk Pope Francis says:
I often find myself wondering: "Why them and not me?" I, myself, was born in a family of migrants; my father, my grandparents, like many other Italians, left for Argentina and met the fate of those who are left with nothing. I could have very well ended up among today's "discarded" people. And that's why I always ask myself, deep in my heart: "Why them and not me?"
It's interesting... People almost invariably ask “Why me?”
I do not ask that question. “Why me?” I did not ask it when I lost a newborn for no reason. I did not ask it when I rolled over a car. I did not ask it when I had a childhood sickness and had restricted movements. “Why me?” seems a stupid question to me. I mean why should it not be me? Many bad things happen to so many people. Somethings might as well be happening to me too. That's a fact of life. No point in denying.
On the other hand, “Why not me?” is a question that has never occurred to me either.
I do not ask “Why not me?” but I always ask “What if it was me?”
In fact, I ask that question quite often. That's why I always feel outrage when it comes to injustice, when it comes to exploitation. The only thing it serves? Nothing! I only feel helpless. I am just another voiceless person among others. I cannot do anything for all those who are suffering so much, and some so needlessly as well. And it is simply frustrating to be only a witness to it all.