That's the trouble with peace. It's very fragile.
What's worse, it takes one to upset it. One to upset the balance. Yet, two or as many parties as involved are necessary to attain it back.
What complicates matters even more is that once peace is upset, egos and hurts get in the way and makes it all the more complicated to go back to peace. It takes maturity and civility to apologize for mistakes, and there are two setbacks to that:
1- Very very few people have that maturity and civility,
2- The definition of a “mistake” is different for everyone, so each party basically accuses the other of making the mistake while considering himself free of any mistakes.
I do not believe in rules and regulations. No rule no law will ever be able to regulate anybody's actions or words. No rule no law will be able to stop anyone from slipping on a responsibility and the other party feeling bad about it, no rule no law will stop anyone calling another a liar or any other accusations of bad intentions. Or no rule no law will stop a person saying things that another will take an offense to. Or people distorting words, people being unfair and having double-standards, things being fine when it is them doing something and awfully unacceptable if it is another. No rule no law will prevent power struggle or character clashes. These are the things that lead to conflict. In fact, no law or rule has ever stopped people arguing, fighting, causing damage, causing physical injury, even killing another; that's why, unfortunately, courts all around the world are full. Unfortunately, prisons are full too.
Experience has taught me that taking legal action is always problematic and draining your energies, it's an all consuming process. Even when you are in the right and win the case in the end, it never is worth the time and money and the stress you went through with the legal apparatus and lawyers. It's something I do not wish upon anybody and do not want for myself. The only time law and court might be useful and worth is for people who have suffered from seriously violent actions. They may feel some vindication seeing the criminal put in jail. Even though it is not so true for all victims. (See Howard Zehr's book: Transcending: Reflections Of Crime Victims
I strongly believe that the only way of getting along with another is good-intentions and willingness to make up for any mistakes. Agreement and understanding cannot be bought or imposed by rules and regulations.
Plus, good will and understanding are very fragile too. Decades of quite good relations can topple after one incident. Which shows the importance of never letting any quarrel go over a certain threshold; because if it does, it's a very slippery slope and things go all the way down from there once it starts.
Conflict is an unavoidable part of life, of interaction between humans and there is no cure for it. So now my purpose is to stop or prevent this possibility in the first place and preserve my peace of mind. The only was out I've found is isolating myself. Unfortunately, this comes at the expense of community which is something I long for. Hopefully, one day soon I'll find my tribe and stick with it.